For Mentors

Everything begins with intention. As mentors, we first clarify why we do this work and what kind of presence we want to embody. This is more than setting goals—it’s establishing sovereignty, wholeness, and a foundation of inner alignment. In this stage, you’ll explore your own story, name your personal values, and connect with the deeper purpose that fuels you. Intention creates the compass for your practice: it steadies you when challenges arise, and it invites you to show up not just as a helper but as a guide who lives by example.

Revelation is the process of bringing to light what has been hidden—patterns, fears, desires, and distorted thinking that shape a client’s life. As mentors, we use tools like the Life Review, Values Assessment, and the 12 Essential Aspects to help clients see clearly. This stage isn’t about diagnosis; it’s about curiosity and discovery. Revelation empowers clients to name what’s real for them, uncover what drives avoidance or struggle, and glimpse the North Star Vision of who they are becoming. You’ll learn to facilitate these discoveries with both courage and compassion, guiding clients through the discomfort of seeing themselves more honestly.

Reflection is where meaning is made. Now that we have supported our clients in becoming more masterful in their external worlds, in Stage 5 we place greater emphasis on the internal world—helping clients become more aware and awake through meditative and contemplative practices. Here we take a deep dive into the virtues we choose to anchor our identities in, uncovering the personal ethic that will guide our lives. Reflection also deepens the mentor’s role: you become a midwife of awareness, helping clients see patterns across time, integrate lessons, and refine their sense of self. Without reflection, change remains surface-level; with it, transformation takes root.

Mastery is not perfection—it is integration. This stage is about consolidating the journey, closing loops, and preparing both mentor and client for endings and new beginnings. In Mastery, mentors learn the art of closing: honoring the process, celebrating progress, and acknowledging what has been learned together.

Before change can happen, trust must be built. Connection is where mentoring takes root through deep listening, attunement, and presence. Here you’ll learn the art of building a genuine connection with your client, shifting from giving advice to cultivating the skills that foster true safety and openness. By exploring what gets in the way of truly seeing another, you’ll discover profound ways of entering into your clients world. Connection is about cultivating rapport that invites authentic honesty and sets the stage for deeper revelation.

Insight without action fades. In this stage, mentors support clients in turning what they’ve discovered into tangible change. Action involves goal setting, habit formation, systems analysis, and practical structures that move a client forward. We draw on coaching skills, accountability practices, and productivity tools while staying attuned to the client’s capacity and balance. As a mentor, you’ll help clients practice new behaviors in the real world—navigating setbacks, testing routines, and aligning daily choices with their deeper vision. Action is where momentum builds, and it often requires both encouragement and disruption to keep growth alive.

This stage is about guiding clients beyond independence into interdependence—where greater accountability is required and deeper intimacy becomes possible. In Stage 6 we explore how mentors work with family systems and become effective parent coaches. We will also explore the skills and capacities needed to effectively lead groups and become sensitive to the dynamics of the group field. Clients learn that freedom is earned through responsibility, integrity, and service, and mentors learn to model and facilitate this shift from self-centered growth to meaningful contribution.